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It’s A Woman Thing

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I was reading this book called FeMALE TRAITS by Lurea McFadden. Let me start off first by saying that I love the book. It’s dope in my opinion. It will make you cherish your significant other a whole lot more if you hadn’t already. I say all of that to introduce why I’m writing this here article.

In the book the man best friend is a Latin woman. On the other hand, his wife is a black woman. Now, none of that is an issue. All of that is completely fine. While I’m reading the book, it’s hinted that the Latin woman has an “attitude problem”. However, it was presented in the book as “fiery”. This here is where I drive it home. How come when a black woman has an “attitude problem” she’s considered an “angry black woman”. If she’s not the angry black woman then she’s ratchet, bitter, sad, lonely, etc.

How come the Latin woman could be presented as fiery but the black was has to be presented as angry? Women catch attitudes over the same things. Our men aren’t listening to us, they forgot to take the trash out again, they don’t give us breaks on cooking, We can’t remember the last time they did the dishes, etc. Shit like that. Hell yeah ANY woman has a right to have an attitude over that. We are their women, not their maids. Not their damn sex toys. Hell yeah we can have an attitude and wild out. That’s ANY woman. White, Black, Spanish, Asian, and so on. If a woman want to stand up for herself that’s completely okay. I don’t think any one of us women of any race should be labeled an angry woman for standing up for ourselves.

We are women. We are all fierce. We are all strong and courageous. Regardless of what anybody tries to label us. We birth babies. Complete our homes. Encourage our men. Nurture our children. And all while doing that we still try to make some kind of time for ourselves. Our men should understand that and lift us up as we do them. It’s not an “angry black woman” thing or a “fiery Latina” thing. It’s A Woman Thing.

 

Written by caressa247

June 27, 2017 at 8:26 pm

Identity Thief

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When did we become our significant other property? Does marriage make it okay? If a man can dictate what you can and cannot do in a marriage, then I never want to get married. I’m not saying be like loose change in the couch cushion. What I am saying is don’t forget who you were before you got into a relationship or marriage.

You was someone sister. Best friend. Daughter. You cannot forget that. You cannot forget that your favorite thing to do on a Tuesday evening is have a martini after a long day of work and sit back watching Tyler Perry’s, If Loving You Is Wrong.  Or, that you love to just sit back and paint while you listen to Maxwell on the Pandora station after you put the kids to bed.

Men don’t realize that they transform the women we used to be. To be perfectly honest, it’s not a bad thing. Growth is good. Change for the better is good. What’s not good, is forgetting the things that once made you the happiest. You cannot forget the things that made you who you are today.

Love your man. Love your family. Throughout all of that you CANNOT forget to love yourself. You get one life to live. Being a girlfriend or a wife doesn’t have to stop you from living your dream. You can be a photographer, writer, model, artist, traveler, etc. All while still being a mother and a living wife. Don’t forget who you are.

Written by caressa247

May 23, 2017 at 11:41 pm

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