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Filling Voids

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There’s this experiment I want to try. I thought of it myself. I named it “Lonely Soul”. It’s an experiment on trying to shut down from the world. As I get older I realize that people aren’t who you think they are. That realization becomes overwhelming every single time the opportunity present itself.  People let you down constantly. Eventually you get so tired of it that it becomes bothersome to you.

The experiment starts off by you distancing yourself from everyone. Not only for the purpose of silencing everyone to understand what you truly need, but also because you want to see who cares enough to reach out. Next step is to slowly become a mute. Don’t speak if it’s not required. For example, if you’re working in an environment that involves you to interact with people, well that of course is something you would have to do. However, if you work alone and communication is not needed, try it. See how that turns out for you.

The final step is to do every single thing by yourself. As in, go to the gym by yourself. Cook breakfast, lunch, and dinner by yourself. Read more, focus on work and promotions. Silence the world but excel in the things you want the most. The point of this experiment is to silence the world so we can understand what we’re truly missing. Sometimes we fill our voids with deception of others. We look for something in them that we’re missing. And we could never figure out what that is because we don’t even know what that is. Silence the world. Pay attention to your inner self. You’ll learn more about yourself than you ever did before.

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October 26, 2017 at 2:41 pm

Strange Faces While Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places

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We all think we know someone. We think we know our family, friends, spouses, etc. but we don’t. Not the full being of them anyway. We only know what they want us to know. How many times have you kept a secret from someone? Is there secrets that you have and plan on taking to the grave with you right now? Sure there’s secrets. We all have them.

Humans do not digest embarrassment well. That’s why we vault our secrets. Would you tell your husband about the time you pissed your pants because you were too scared to be in the house alone at the age fifteen? I think that is a small secret you would hold onto. That was just a small example. If you killed two of your ex wives, would you tell that to your soon-to-be third wife? Now, that’s a big example. Not to mention I highly doubt anyone would disclose that information.

The point I’m making here is how well do we know anyone. Can true love even exist if we never met each other true self?

 

 

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October 15, 2017 at 4:12 am

Identity Thief

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When did we become our significant other property? Does marriage make it okay? If a man can dictate what you can and cannot do in a marriage, then I never want to get married. I’m not saying be like loose change in the couch cushion. What I am saying is don’t forget who you were before you got into a relationship or marriage.

You was someone sister. Best friend. Daughter. You cannot forget that. You cannot forget that your favorite thing to do on a Tuesday evening is have a martini after a long day of work and sit back watching Tyler Perry’s, If Loving You Is Wrong.  Or, that you love to just sit back and paint while you listen to Maxwell on the Pandora station after you put the kids to bed.

Men don’t realize that they transform the women we used to be. To be perfectly honest, it’s not a bad thing. Growth is good. Change for the better is good. What’s not good, is forgetting the things that once made you the happiest. You cannot forget the things that made you who you are today.

Love your man. Love your family. Throughout all of that you CANNOT forget to love yourself. You get one life to live. Being a girlfriend or a wife doesn’t have to stop you from living your dream. You can be a photographer, writer, model, artist, traveler, etc. All while still being a mother and a living wife. Don’t forget who you are.

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May 23, 2017 at 11:41 pm

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Men (LOL)

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Men. Laugh out loud. You know why I’m lol’ing. I’ll tell you why. Because these days men are fucking jokes. They are comical. They are entertainers. Clowns, to be exact. It has to be some kind of sick joke for you to be a man and think it’s okay to watch your woman hurt.

You look at her with tears in her eyes. And ask her why is she crying. As if you don’t know you are the cause. You’ll hurt your woman. Offend your woman. Then when she gives you the silent treatment, you treat her as if she’s wrong. Like you didn’t hurt her.

You’ll lay right next to your woman in bed. Fall asleep heavenly, and not even think twice about why she’s laying next to you crying. You ignore the snobs. Ignore the sniffles. Just laying there. Loudly snoring, enjoying your sleep. You don’t care that her pain doesn’t allow her to sleep. All you know, is that you’re tired. And you’re going to sleep

That’s why men are jokes. You simply make me lol. Not because you are funny. But because you yourself is a funny-styled person. You don’t know how delicate your woman is.  You don’t know how easily she can break. How easily she can hurt. All you know is that as long as she’s not hurting you, you’re happy. Even though you’re hurting her, that doesn’t matter. Because you’re happy.

She cooks for you daily. Keeps your home clean, stabled, and functioning to both of your liking. Work and still have time to be a good woman to you. Do you appreciate it? No. Do you remind her that she’s beautiful? No. Do you make her feel special? No. Do you make her happy? No. When was the last time you told her you loved her randomly? Can’t remember. When was the last time you took her out on a date? You don’t know. When was the last time you cooked dinner for her or cleaned up the house without her having to ask you? Can’t even recollect, can you?

That’s why men are jokes. That is why you make me lol. Because we’re superwoman for them. And they can’t even be a simple lover to us. They forget that we are the prize. They forget that we are something special. We in this new day and age where men want us to fight for them. Provide for them. That’s cool and all, but what about us? We’re doing so much for you guys to the point where you feel like we don’t deserve having anything done for us anymore. I miss the days where men were gentlemen and wanted to make their women happy. Guess I missed out. It would’ve been nice to have a man genuinely care about me and my happiness.

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May 8, 2017 at 5:03 am

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