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It’s A Woman Thing

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I was reading this book called FeMALE TRAITS by Lurea McFadden. Let me start off first by saying that I love the book. It’s dope in my opinion. It will make you cherish your significant other a whole lot more if you hadn’t already. I say all of that to introduce why I’m writing this here article.

In the book the man best friend is a Latin woman. On the other hand, his wife is a black woman. Now, none of that is an issue. All of that is completely fine. While I’m reading the book, it’s hinted that the Latin woman has an “attitude problem”. However, it was presented in the book as “fiery”. This here is where I drive it home. How come when a black woman has an “attitude problem” she’s considered an “angry black woman”. If she’s not the angry black woman then she’s ratchet, bitter, sad, lonely, etc.

How come the Latin woman could be presented as fiery but the black was has to be presented as angry? Women catch attitudes over the same things. Our men aren’t listening to us, they forgot to take the trash out again, they don’t give us breaks on cooking, We can’t remember the last time they did the dishes, etc. Shit like that. Hell yeah ANY woman has a right to have an attitude over that. We are their women, not their maids. Not their damn sex toys. Hell yeah we can have an attitude and wild out. That’s ANY woman. White, Black, Spanish, Asian, and so on. If a woman want to stand up for herself that’s completely okay. I don’t think any one of us women of any race should be labeled an angry woman for standing up for ourselves.

We are women. We are all fierce. We are all strong and courageous. Regardless of what anybody tries to label us. We birth babies. Complete our homes. Encourage our men. Nurture our children. And all while doing that we still try to make some kind of time for ourselves. Our men should understand that and lift us up as we do them. It’s not an “angry black woman” thing or a “fiery Latina” thing. It’s A Woman Thing.

 

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June 27, 2017 at 8:26 pm

Weird People

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Did you ever notice how weird some people are? You can have someone that has your back completely. They encourage you to do better and they accept you for who you are. Yet when that same person that is always there for you suddenly need you, you are nowhere to be found. That is the true definition of weird. You don’t know how to comfort your good friend in a time of need but you know how to comfort a person that tears you down repeatedly.

You know how invest your time and energy into a person who doesn’t even give a damn if you are good or not. They’ll come around when it’s convenient for them. And you’ll be right there, like a damn weirdo. But when your good friend needs you, you’re incognito. You’re all of a sudden Ray Mysterio.

That’s why I learned to be happy with myself, by myself. Some of my most happiest and relaxing moments are by myself. I go to the movies by myself. I get my eyebrows done by myself. I have lunch by myself. I even had drinks by myself before at a couple bars. I enjoy time by myself. It’s less stressful. Plus you don’t have any fake people around showing fake love to you. Just genuine love if you genuinely love yourself.

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May 29, 2017 at 4:02 am

Identity Thief

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When did we become our significant other property? Does marriage make it okay? If a man can dictate what you can and cannot do in a marriage, then I never want to get married. I’m not saying be like loose change in the couch cushion. What I am saying is don’t forget who you were before you got into a relationship or marriage.

You was someone sister. Best friend. Daughter. You cannot forget that. You cannot forget that your favorite thing to do on a Tuesday evening is have a martini after a long day of work and sit back watching Tyler Perry’s, If Loving You Is Wrong.  Or, that you love to just sit back and paint while you listen to Maxwell on the Pandora station after you put the kids to bed.

Men don’t realize that they transform the women we used to be. To be perfectly honest, it’s not a bad thing. Growth is good. Change for the better is good. What’s not good, is forgetting the things that once made you the happiest. You cannot forget the things that made you who you are today.

Love your man. Love your family. Throughout all of that you CANNOT forget to love yourself. You get one life to live. Being a girlfriend or a wife doesn’t have to stop you from living your dream. You can be a photographer, writer, model, artist, traveler, etc. All while still being a mother and a living wife. Don’t forget who you are.

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May 23, 2017 at 11:41 pm

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Men (LOL)

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Men. Laugh out loud. You know why I’m lol’ing. I’ll tell you why. Because these days men are fucking jokes. They are comical. They are entertainers. Clowns, to be exact. It has to be some kind of sick joke for you to be a man and think it’s okay to watch your woman hurt.

You look at her with tears in her eyes. And ask her why is she crying. As if you don’t know you are the cause. You’ll hurt your woman. Offend your woman. Then when she gives you the silent treatment, you treat her as if she’s wrong. Like you didn’t hurt her.

You’ll lay right next to your woman in bed. Fall asleep heavenly, and not even think twice about why she’s laying next to you crying. You ignore the snobs. Ignore the sniffles. Just laying there. Loudly snoring, enjoying your sleep. You don’t care that her pain doesn’t allow her to sleep. All you know, is that you’re tired. And you’re going to sleep

That’s why men are jokes. You simply make me lol. Not because you are funny. But because you yourself is a funny-styled person. You don’t know how delicate your woman is.  You don’t know how easily she can break. How easily she can hurt. All you know is that as long as she’s not hurting you, you’re happy. Even though you’re hurting her, that doesn’t matter. Because you’re happy.

She cooks for you daily. Keeps your home clean, stabled, and functioning to both of your liking. Work and still have time to be a good woman to you. Do you appreciate it? No. Do you remind her that she’s beautiful? No. Do you make her feel special? No. Do you make her happy? No. When was the last time you told her you loved her randomly? Can’t remember. When was the last time you took her out on a date? You don’t know. When was the last time you cooked dinner for her or cleaned up the house without her having to ask you? Can’t even recollect, can you?

That’s why men are jokes. That is why you make me lol. Because we’re superwoman for them. And they can’t even be a simple lover to us. They forget that we are the prize. They forget that we are something special. We in this new day and age where men want us to fight for them. Provide for them. That’s cool and all, but what about us? We’re doing so much for you guys to the point where you feel like we don’t deserve having anything done for us anymore. I miss the days where men were gentlemen and wanted to make their women happy. Guess I missed out. It would’ve been nice to have a man genuinely care about me and my happiness.

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May 8, 2017 at 5:03 am

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The Benefits of Moisturizing

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     We spend most of our time admiring our favorite celebrities. We’re constantly wrecking our brains wondering how can we make our skin more luminous and beautiful. I found the secret to their beautiful skin regimen without using makeup. Do you want to know the secret?

     The key to beautiful flawless skin is to moisturize. Moisturizers does more than make your skin soft and vibrant, it reduces water loss from the epidermis as well. Beware though, not all moisturizers are the same. Some can be very harmful towards your skin. Consult with your doctor before you use any products if you have a skin condition.

     I’ll share some natural ingredient ideas with you in this article. That way you can see it’s easy to find everyday ingredients to make a light and organic moisturizer. Some herbs and essentials are great for moisture. Vitamin E, avocado, glycerin, yogurt, bananas, and olive oil are all also excellent ingredients to use when it comes down to moisturizing.

     You should try a simple yogurt mask. It is phenomenal for revitalizing skin. It improves skin texture, helps middle age acne, gives you a healthy glow, and moisturize your skin. Here’s a little facial treatment that can help.

     Vitamin E boost & yogurt treatment:

  1. Empty contents of 3 Vitamin E capsules into small bowl
  2. Add 2 tsps of plain yogurt
  3. 1/2 tsp of honey
  4. 1/2 tsp of lemon juice
  5. Finally, apply mixture on face using a cottonball.
  6. Leave on for 10 minutes then rinse.

     You can thank me later. Now go try that new yogurt treatment and tell me how great it works 🙂

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September 30, 2013 at 7:21 pm

Facial Mask

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Camera(54) (1)Have you ever woke up in the morning and felt you needed a clean rejuvenating mask? Honestly, I have. When I wake up with that feeling, the first thing that comes to my mind is a Strawberry Facial Mask. Strawberries contain salicylic acid that removes dead skin cells, reduce pores and gives you a glow.

Salicylic acid is the key to fighting acne. This is why it’s perfect for seasonal breakouts. In the summer we get hot and sticky. Leaving our pores dangerously exposed, but that doesn’t have to be an issue. Strawberries softly refresh as well as exfoliate the skin, remove blemishes, and reduce redness and swelling. If you want your face cleansed and baby soft, this facial mask is for you.

Creamy Strawberry Facial Mask:

4 to 5 very ripe, medium size strawberries

2 teaspoons heavy cream

teaspoon honey

Rinse the strawberries and dry with a clean paper towel. In a small bowl, mash fruit with fork. Add cream and honey, mix well. Apply immediately and leave on for 20 min. Rinse off with lots of warm water.

“Be advised: 4 ounces is enough for one or two strawberry facial masks”.

OMG!!!! Did you know oats comfort the skin??!!

Stay tune!! The next article will be about oats skin care.

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April 19, 2013 at 6:14 pm

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Violence in Trenton, NJ

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The violence in my hometown has gotten completely out of hand as I grew up. The streets are nowhere as safe as they use to be. Local residents have to fear for their lives because some lethal individuals have a shoot out in broad daylight while families are out. No one wants their kids outside because they are afraid anything can happen to them. So what can we do about the violence in our local neighborhoods?

Do we keep calling the police hoping something would change? Or do we take actions in our own hands? We are mothers, fathers, aunts, uncles, sisters, brothers, and friends burying our family as the days go on. Where do we drawl the line and say that’s enough? Where do we all come together as a community? As a family? I’m sure we all lost a loved one. We “The Community” should take that hurt and pain and grow from it. Let the pain and hurt teach you to love.

Love is whats going to save us. Love is going to stop our brothers, our sisters, our nieces, our nephews, our mothers, our fathers, our aunts, our uncles, and our friends from dying. We are going to save lives. If we come together as one and realize that we are all family and no one deserve this pain, then all will be well. Until we stand up for each other, violence in our community is going to continue to happen. Our families are going to keep going through the cycle of the hurt and pain. We have to put a end to this. We need to stop this NOW.

Is this what the world has come to? Selfishness? Do we really have no sense of caring for strangers? When someone hurts another person, that’s obviously a cry for help. You don’t solve violence with violence. Violence plus violence equals war. If that stranger kills your brother, you seek revenge and kill him, his brother comes back to seek revenge and kill you, your family goes to seek revenge on his family. Where does the blood trail stop? When everyone in that person family and your family is dead? Trenton has nineteen homicides this year. Is that going to be it? Can we make a difference right now?

I think we have a chance. Only if we all come together.We can come up with ideas as a community to figure out different ways to make our community more safe. Some of my suggestions would be more officers around local neighborhoods, we can come up with a community safe watch program, and we can speak to everyone in the community to try and get them to be proactive with our city organization. What are some your suggestions? I would love to hear what are some of your opinions on how we can make our community safe.

Feel free to comment anytime.

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October 22, 2012 at 3:13 pm

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